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| Topic Started: Oct 4 2009, 02:02 PM (102 Views) | |
| WildOne | Oct 4 2009, 02:02 PM Post #1 |
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I may have to sell Zazu  There is nothing wrong with him, I am not short on money, right now I have plenty of time to spend with him and I haven't stopped loving him to bits. So what's the problem? warning there is a lot of drama and ranting that follows and an inside to my life most of you do not care for. If you skip this part...I understand *sigh* Well the thing is, when I originally wanted to get a bird (several years ago), I had asked my dad if I may and he said as long as I pay for him/her myself and such. So a couple of years later (and a crap load of research and such) I asked my dad once again and it was the same answer. At my moms she gave me money for good grades and such (the only way to motivate a Junior in high school these days XD) so I decided to finally buy my own bird. Once again checking with my dad and once again getting the same answer, I bought Zazu. To make a long story short, everything went well until I had to go back to Ohio to my dads and stepmoms. The night before my dad calls me and says I have to leave Zazu at my moms because WOOPS he forgot to mention to my stepmonster...erm I mean stepmom, that I am bringing a bird home (mind you this is in August and I bought Zazu in July and had been sending pictures and updates to my dad for that entire month so how he happen to forget to tell his wife that I had a bird is beyond me) and so she spazzed out. My real-mom knew that she could not take care of Zazu herself since she traveled so much. I knew that Zazu is a living being and not an object I can leave for months at a time and visit like some bird zoo and he would be perfectly find with that. So we carefully prepared Zoz for the long trip and ignoring my dads threats to leave the bird in the parking lot of the Dairy Queen where we meet in Virgina, we hit the road. to make another long story short, I had refused to get into my dads car unless he let Zazu come with me. So I won that battle and we headed to Ohio all the while my dad was trying to convince me he had never said "yes" to me getting Zazu (despite the text message I had saying otherwise) and that we cant "afford" to have a bird in the house (may I add that we live in the most expensive school district in the entire state of Ohio and I go to the nicest public school in the state?) He was just trying to cover up the fact that he had never spoken to my stepmother about it (I had mentioned it to her once..but I assumed a husband and wife had better communication that this...) end useless teenage background drama. You can now read on to see the actual problem So anywho, once we got home. Things kind of quieted down for a few weeks and I thought all had blown over and I can officially declare Zazu as a part of the family and FINALLY show you guys pictures of him (I have this thing that I have to make sure something is "final" or something like that, before I can really accept that it's really there. So that is why I hadnt posted up pictures of Zoz....do you understand or have I lost you?) That is, until I figured out that my dad nor stepmother cared for Zazu what-so-ever and actually viewed him as an expendable object. SO when I warned them about air fresheners, certain pots and pans, Zazu needing social interaction, his daily nutrition, his daily baths, it was met with: "He is just a bird, he'll be fine." "He can't go anywhere around the house unless he is outside (me: but our dog goes all around the house) Well the dog is different (me: how??) Dont talk back." "He doesn't need a bath all the time. He'll be fine. He is an animal. You don't really need fresh fruits and such for him EVERYDAY." And to make matters worse, my stepmother uses him to get me to do things. Such as: "Get your room clean or the bird goes." "Do that one more time and we'll put the bird to the curb" "If you dont raise that B up, so help me I'm going to give that bird to the shelter." There is also the college issue. This is an issue that I should have known would have been a problem and it is my complete fault that I hadn't looked at it before. When I go to college and live in a dorm (the usual college requirement to live in a dorm for freshmen year) I can not possibly trust an unknown room mate to not do something entirely stupid to Zoz or for him to stay quiet when I go to classes (something that wouldn't have been a problem if everyone went to classes at the same time) but since he doesn't. I don't want to have to A) get rid of him when he has been with me for two years and already has really connected with me and B) have someone trying to get him to stop making noise...something that makes me shudder to think (immature college kids....) You can see the problem I have. If I had known things would have gone down the crap hole like this I would have NEVER gotten Zazu and force him to go through such a negative environment filled with people that wouldn't hesitate to literally put him next to the garbage cans if I so much as turn my back (I knew my stepmother didn't like me...but I didn't know she was this bad) I know Zazu must not be happy. I know he will never really be a cheerful and spoiled parrot unless I get him away from my ignorant, arrogant parents (Not my real-mom of course. She is so helpful and loves Zazu just as much as I do.) and I know the college thing isn't a problem now but it will be much worse later when he isn't as young and will take to maybe having a new owner as well. But I don't want to have to get rid of my baby and maybe that's just me being selfish or maybe there is a different solution. I really don't know and I'm so confused and worried that I have broken down in tears several times. I'm sure many of you are probably thinking this is all my fault and I should have known and that Im just an immature teenager that just ruined a poor parrots life and that I am probably just being a dramatic 16-17 year old and I need to get a life. I know. I feel the same way (well maybe not about the dramatic part). But I'm asking for help anyways. Should I sell Zazu now when he is six months hold and hope he will take to another owner? OR should I keep him and see what will happen? I really don't know. But I am grateful for any advice and that you guys actually read all of this...crap... even if you dont post anything. I feel somewhat better writing...erm typing...all of this out and knowing at least someone is listening. I am so sorry for this rant and I know several of you may be mad and disappointed to hear about yet another retarded person screwing up another poor parrot. I am very sorry, and I hope you forgive me. -Devin Here is Zazu He likes to kinda "lay" in my hand if I pet him for awhile. Sorry for the HUGANTIC image...gotta find a way to scale it down and it's blurry 'cus I took it with my phone. 
Edited by conure58, Oct 4 2009, 04:32 PM.
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| Dusky Lover | Oct 4 2009, 03:28 PM Post #2 |
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Wow Devin , that is a really tough situation to be in .....  It sounds like your father didnt communicate well with your stepmom regarding you bringing your bird with you , and i am sure your father is trying to keep the PEACE with your stepmom by telling you he never said you should get a BIRD ( When you really know he told you it was O.k ) . If i were you , i would try to keep the bird ! I am sure you really care about Zazu , and would feel absolutely terrible having to re-home Zazu . Try to rationalize with your father & stepmother ( If they are rational people ) and tell them how you feel about your bird , and ask your father why would he give you the o.k to obtain your conure , then later down the road tell you he never saqid those things ...  It is hard to tell you what decision you have to make . I believe you have to do what the right thing is for the Bird as well as for yourself . If you end up having to re-home your bird , i know at 6 months old the bird will definitely take to another person . I know that would be very hard for you to give Zazu up , but in the worst case scenario you should know that your bird will definitely be o.k , and will adapt relatively quickly to a new QUALIFIED bird owner ! If you have to re-home your conure , look for a qualified person on this website , or a really good Avian shelter that has a good reputation and cares for birds , and helps with finding them new responsible owners . If you need names of places to bring your bird ( Worst case scenario ) I am sure that Anna ( Buuzbee ) or Mark ( Conure58 ) can help you with names of shelters in Ohio where you could bring Zazu . If you have to get rid of your conure ... , You could see if someone here would be interested in taking Zazu . I would take him if needed , but i dont want to drive all the way to Ohio .... lol , but i think we have members close to the areas that might take him .I feel really bad to hear this news , and I dont think its your fault for what happened ( Sounds like your dad mixed up his story ) but i am sure he doesnt want to get on your stepmoms bad side and he just goes with whatever she says . If i were you , sit down and have a talk with them , and tell them how you feel , and see if you can work out some kind of agreement to keep your bird without the threats of hearing if you dont do this .... the bird is gone . Tell them your Zazu is a living creature who deserves much better than that . Ask your stepmom how would she feel , if someone told her ... you dont do this and you will be living at a shelter . Try to keep the peace , and most of all try to KEEP YOUR BABY .  I wish you luck , and keep us posted on what kind of progress you make with sitting down and talking with them . 
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| conure58 | Oct 4 2009, 04:26 PM Post #3 |
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I'd have to agree with Phil. I don't see how anyone could think this is in any way your fault. I know if it were me, I'd try just about anything to be able to keep Zazu. It does sound very unfair of your Dad to tell you one thing, then turn around and say something else because he doesn't want his wife to be mad at him. And I probably shouldn't say anything about what I think of her. I hope there's some way to convince your Dad and stepmom that Zazu should be allowed to stay. I don't know how much you can trust your stepmom, now that you know she dislikes him so much though. Is it possible you'd come home from school one day and find she's sold him to someone else? Just wondering, since I don't know what she's like. If you do decide you have to re-home him, an Avian rescue/adoption place would probably be best, although rescues don't pay you anything for your bird though (at least I don't know of any that do). I looked around a bit for any in your area, but didn't find one closer than 75 to 100 miles away from you. |
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| kiddo76 | Oct 5 2009, 10:55 AM Post #4 |
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I'm speechless. I'm sorry honey. I live 2 hours east of Pittsburgh PA and I just spent $1100 yesterday on 9 more birds. 4 of which are green cheeks. Or else I would put in my bid for taking in Zazu. I'm kinda grounded now. yeah, 33 yrs old and I'm not allowed to spend any more buying birds lmao!!! |
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| Carla | Oct 26 2009, 06:40 PM Post #5 |
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You poor thing and poor Zazu. Please let us know how things are. Try to kee p the peace for your's and Zazu's sake and keep him away from your Stepmom and her airfreshners. If things get awful, I know my friend would give him an excellent home. He has several birds and I would be willing to make the drive with him. |
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